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*Recommended for those just getting started.

*Addict in the Family
by Beverly Conyers

*Everything Changes
by Beverly Conyers

*Alcoholics Anonymous: The Big Book, 4th Edition
by AA Services

The Chemical Carousel: What Science Tells us About Beating Addiction
by Dirk Hanson

In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction
by Gabor Mate

Beyond Addiction
by Jeffrey Foote, Carrie Wilkens, Nicole Kosanke

Loved One in Treatment? Now What! An Essential Handbook for Family Members and Friends Navigating the Path of a Loved One’s Addiction, Treatment and Recovery
by Lisa Frederiksen

Adolescent Drug & Alcohol Abuse
by Nikki Babbit

Addictive Thinking
by Abraham Twerski

Recover to Live:  Kick Any Habit, Manage Any Addiction:
Your Self-Treatment Guide to Alcohol, Drugs, Eating Disorders, Gambling, Hoarding, Smoking, Sex, and Porn
by Christopher Kennedy Lawford

What Addicts Know: 10 Lessons from Recovery to Benefit Everyone
by Christopher Kennedy Lawford

Young, Sober & Free: Experience, Strength, and Hope for Young Adults
by Shelly Marshall

Passages Through Recovery:  An Action Plan for Preventing Relapse
by Terence T. Gorski

When Your Teen is in Treatment:  A Guide For Parents
Perkins & Perkins, 1990

Helping Your Chemically Dependent Teenager Recover. A Guide for Parents and Other Concerned Adults.
by Peter R. Cohen, 1991

Parenting for Prevention:  How to Raise a Child to Say No to Alcohol/Drugs.
by David J. Wilmes, 1988

One Breath at a Time:  Buddhism and the Twelve Steps
by Kevin Edward Griffin

The 12-Step Buddhist:  Enhance Recovery from Any Addiction
by Darren Littlejohn

When Bad Things Happen to Good People
by Harold S. Kushner

The Spirituality of Imperfection: Storytelling and the Search for Meaning
by Ernest Kurtz and Katherine Ketcham

Get Your Loved One Sober. Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading, and Threatening.
Meyers & Wolfe, 2004

Reclaim Your Family From Addiction. How Couples and Families Recover Love and Meaning.
by Craig Nakken, 2000

by Vernon Johnson

Stage II Recovery:  Life Beyond Addiction
by Earnie Larsen

*Recommended for those just getting started.

*Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
by Melody Beattie, 1986

*Codependent’s Guide to the Twelve Steps:  How to Find the Right Program for You and Apply Each of the Twelve Steps to Your Own Issues
by Melody Beattie

*The Language of Letting Go
by Melody Beattie

Beyond Codependency
by Melody Beattie, 1986

Adult Children of Alcoholics
by Janet Geringer Woititz

Don’t Let Your Kids Kill You:  A Guide for Parents of Drug and Alcohol Addicted Children
by Charles Rubin

Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children:  Six Steps to Hope and Healing for Struggling Parents
by Allison Bottke

Codependence. The Dance of the Wounded Souls
by Robert Burney

When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us:  Letting Go of Their Problems, Loving Them Anyway, and Getting on with Our Lives
by Jane Adams, PhD

Tending Dandelions: Honest Meditations for Mothers with Addicted Children
by Sandy Swenson

Courage to Change: One Day at a Time in Al-Anon II
by Al-Anon Family Group

Recovering Joy: A Mindful Life After Addiction Kindle Edition
by Kevin Griffin 

If You Loved Me, You’d Stop! What You Really Need to Know When Your Loved One Drinks Too Much
by Lisa Frederiksen

Buzzed:  The Straight Facts About the Most Used and Abused Drugs from Alcohol to Ecstasy
by Cynthia Kuhn, PhD; Scott Swarzwelder, PhD; and Wilkie Wilson, PhD

Getting Tough on Gateway Drugs:  A Guide for the Family.
by Robert L. Dupont

The Selfish Brain: Learning from Addiction
by Robert L. DuPont; Forward by Betty Ford

Boundaries – Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life
by Henry Cloud & John Townsend

High: Everything You Want to Know About Drugs, Alcohol, and Addiction
by David Sheff & Nic Sheff 

Why Don’t They Just Quit? What Families and Friends Need to Know About Addiction and Recovery
by Joe Herzanek

Love First: A Family’s Guide to Intervention
by Jeff Jay & Debra Jay

Under the Influence: A Guide to the Myths and Realities of Alcoholism
by James Robert Milam and Katherine Ketcham

Choices & Consequences:  What To Do When a Teenager Uses Drugs/Alcohol, A Step-by-Step System That Really Works.
by Dick Schaefer and Pamela Espeland

I’ve Got This Friend Who: Advice for Teens and Their Friends on Alcohol, Drugs, Eating Disorders, Risky Behavior and More
by America’s Teens & the Experts at KidsPeace. Edited by Anna Radev

Yes, Your Teen Is Crazy!  Loving Your Kid Without Losing Your Mind.
by Michael Bradley

The Case Against Homework:  How Homework is Hurting Children and What Parents Can Do About It
by Sara Bennett

The Battle Over Homework:  Common Ground for Administrators, Teachers and Parents
by Harris Cooper

The Homework Myth:  Why Our Kids Get Too Much of a Bad Think
by Alfie Kohn

Punished by Rewards:  The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A’s, Praise, and Other Bribes
by Alfie Kohn

Colleges That Change Lives:  40 Schools That Will Change the Way You Think About Colleges
by Loren Pope

The Last Lecture
by Randy Pausch with Jeffrey Zaslow

The Death and Life of the Great American School System:  How Testing and Choice are Undermining Education
by Diane Ravitch

High Schools on a Human Scale:  How Small Schools Can Transform American Education
by Thomas Toch

“The Character Test,” NYTimes Magazine, 9/18/11, p. 38
(alternative title:  “What if the Secret to Success is Failure?”)
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by Paul Tough

Waiting for Superman:  How We Can Save America’s Failing Public Schools
by Karl Weber

Addiction on Trial: Tragedy in Downeast Maine
by Steven Kassels

The Bridge Club: A Novel Kindle Edition
by Patricia Sands

Life After the Death of My Son: What I’m Learning
by Dennis L. Apple

I Am Your Disease: The Many Faces of Addiction
by Sheryl Letzgus McGinnis

One-Way Ticket: Our Son’s Addiction to Heroin
by Rita Lowenthal

Life Between Falls, A Travelogue Through Grief and the Unexpected
by Julie Lange

Beyond Tears: Living After Losing a Child
by Carol, Barkin, Audrey Cohen, Lorenza Colletti, Barbara Eisenberg, Barbara J. Goldstein, Madelaine Perri Kasden, Phyllis Levine, Ariella Long and Rita Volpe, in collaboration with Ellen Mitchell

How to Survive the Worst That Can Happen: A Parent’s Step by Step Guide to Healing After the Loss of a Child
by Sandy Peckinpah

Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief
by Martha Whitmore Hickman

The Bereaved Parent
by Harriet Sarnoff Schiff

Losing Jonathan
by Robert Waxler and Linda Waxler

When the Bough Breaks: Forever After the Death of a Son or Daughter
by Judith R. Bernstein

From a Grieving Mother’s Heart
by Terri Ann Leidich

When a Child Dies from Drugs: Practical Help for Parents in Bereavement
by Pat Wittberger and Russ Wittberger

My Daughter’s Addiction: A Thief in the Family – Hardwired for Heroin
by Marie Minnich

From My Heart: Expressions of a Grieving Mother
by Lisa McCann

Living When a Loved One Has Died
by Earl A. Grollman

Books for children:

“Badger’s Parting Gifts” (ages 4 through 8)
by Susan Varley

“I Miss You: A First Look at Death” (ages 4 and up)
by Pat Thomas

“The Next Place” (ages 5 and up)
by Warren Hanson

“When Someone Very Special Dies: Children Can Learn to Cope with Grief (ages 9 through 12)
by Marge Heegaard

Weed, Inc.
by Ben Cort

Tell Your Children: The Truth About Marijuana, Mental Illness, and Violence Hardcover
by Alex Berenson

Marijuana: The Unbiased Truth about the World’s Most Popular Weed
by Kevin P. Hill

Marijuana Debunked: A handbook for parents, pundits and politicians who want to know the case against legalization.
by Ed Gogek

Behind Happy Faces. Taking Charge of Your Mental Health. A Guide for Young Adults.
by Ross Szabo, Melanie Hall, 2007

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma Paperback – September 8, 2015
by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.

The Bipolar Child:  The Definitive and Reassuring Guide to Childhood’s Most Misunderstood Disorder
by Demitri Papolos, MD and Janice Papolos

The Bipolar Teen: What You Can Do to Help Your Child and Your Family
by David J. Miklowitz and Elizabeth L. George

An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and Madness
by Kay Redfield Jamison

Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder
by Paul Mason MS and Randi Kreger

I Am Not Sick I Don’t Need Help: How to Help Someone with Mental Illness Accept Treatment
by Xavier Amador

Overcoming Perfectionism
by Ann W. Smith

Detour: My Bipolar Road Trip in 4-D
by Lizzie Simon

Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls
by Mary Pipher

The Anger Workbook for Teens: Activities to Help You Deal With Anger and Frustration
by Raychelle Cassada Lohmann

The Lost Boy: A Foster Child’s Search for the Love of a Family
by Dave Pelzer

The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children
by Ross W. Greene

Why Gender Matters: What Parents and Teachers Need to Know about the Emerging Science of Sex Differences
by Leonard Sax M.D., Ph.D.

ADHD Nation: Children, Doctors, Big Pharma, and the Making of an American Epidemic
by Alan Schwarz

Dopesick: Dealers, Doctors, and the Drug Company that Addicted America
by Beth Macy

If You Love Me: A Mother’s Journey Through Her Daughter’s Opioid Addiction