Recommended Reading

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“If You Loved Me, You’d Stop! What You Really Need to Know When Your Loved One Drinks Too Much”
by Lisa Frederiksen

“Buzzed:  The Straight Facts About the Most Used and Abused Drugs from Alcohol to Ecstasy”
by Cynthia Kuhn, PhD; Scott Swarzwelder, PhD; and Wilkie Wilson, PhD

“Getting Tough on Gateway Drugs:  A Guide for the Family.”
by Robert L. Dupont

“The Selfish Brain: Learning from Addiction”
by Robert L. DuPont; Forward by Betty Ford

“Boundaries:  Where You End and I Begin” Boundaries with Teens. When to Say Yes, How to Say No.
by John Townsend

“Why Don’t They Just Quit? What Families and Friends Need to Know About Addiction and Recovery”
by Joe Herzanek

“Love First: A Family’s Guide to Intervention”
by Jeff Jay & Debra Jay

“Under the Influence: A Guide to the Myths and Realities of Alcoholism”
by James Robert Milam and Katherine Ketcham

“Choices & Consequences:  What To Do When a Teenager Uses Drugs/Alcohol, A Step-by-Step System That Really Works.”
by Dick Schaefer and Pamela Espeland

“I’ve Got This Friend Who: Advice for Teens and Their Friends on Alcohol, Drugs, Eating Disorders, Risky Behavior and More”
by America’s Teens & the Experts at KidsPeace. Edited by Anna Radev

“Yes, Your Teen Is Crazy!  Loving Your Kid Without Losing Your Mind.”
by Michael Bradley

“Beautiful Boy”
by David Sheff

“The Joey Song”
by Sandy Swenson

“The Big Fix: Hope After Heroin”
by Tracey Helton Mitchell

“Stay Close:  A Mother’s Story of Her Son’s Addiction”
by Libby Cataldi

“Broken:  My Story of Addiction and Redemption”
by William Cope Moyers and Katherine Ketcham

“The Lost Years: Surviving a Mother and Daughter’s Worst Nightmare”
by Kristina Wandzilak

“Symptoms of Withdrawal”
by Christopher Kennedy Lawford

“Moments of Clarity”
by Christopher Kennedy Lawford

“An Unquiet Mind”
by K. Redfield Jamison

“Beyond Belief”
by Josh Hamilton

“Come Back:  A Mother and Daughter’s Journey Through Hell and Back”
by Claire and Mia Fontaine

Trilogy:  “The Liars’ Club” | “Cherry” | “Lit”
by Mary Karr

“Detour: My Bipolar Road Trip in 4-D”
by Lizzie Simon

“My Name is Bill” (Biography of Bill Wilson, founder of Alcoholics Anonymous)
by Susan Cheever

“Hit Hard: A Story of Hitting Rock Bottom at the Top”
by Joey Kramer (of Aerosmith)

“The Tender Bar”
by J.R. Moehringer

“Unwasted: My Lush Sobriety”
by Sacha Z. Scoblic

“Tweak:  Growing Up on Methamphetamines”
by Nick Sheff

“Wishful Drinking”
by Carrie Fisher

“Life After the Death of My Son: What I’m Learning”
by Dennis L. Apple

“I Am Your Disease: The Many Faces of Addiction”
by Sheryl Letzgus McGinnis

“One-Way Ticket: Our Son’s Addiction to Heroin”
by Rita Lowenthal

“Life Between Falls, A Travelogue Through Grief and the Unexpected”
by Julie Lange

“Beyond Tears: Living After Losing a Child”
by Carol, Barkin, Audrey Cohen, Lorenza Colletti, Barbara Eisenberg, Barbara J. Goldstein, Madelaine Perri Kasden, Phyllis Levine, Ariella Long and Rita Volpe, in collaboration with Ellen Mitchell

“How to Survive the Worst That Can Happen: A Parent’s Step by Step Guide to Healing After the Loss of a Child”
by Sandy Peckinpah

“Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief”
by Martha Whitmore Hickman

“The Bereaved Parent”
by Harriet Sarnoff Schiff

“Losing Jonathan”
by Robert Waxler and Linda Waxler

“When the Bough Breaks: Forever After the Death of a Son or Daughter”
by Judith R. Bernstein

“From a Grieving Mother’s Heart”
by Terri Ann Leidich

“When a Child Dies from Drugs: Practical Help for Parents in Bereavement”
by Pat Wittberger and Russ Wittberger

“My Daughter’s Addiction: A Thief in the Family – Hardwired for Heroin”
by Marie Minnich

“From My Heart: Expressions of a Grieving Mother”
by Lisa McCann

“Living When a Loved One Has Died”
by Earl A. Grollman

Books for children:

“Badger’s Parting Gifts” (ages 4 through 8)
by Susan Varley

“I Miss You: A First Look at Death” (ages 4 and up)
by Pat Thomas

“The Next Place” (ages 5 and up)
by Warren Hanson

“When Someone Very Special Dies: Children Can Learn to Cope with Grief (ages 9 through 12)
by Marge Heegaard

*Recommended for those just getting started.

*“Addict in the Family”
by Beverly Conyers

*“Everything Changes”
by Beverly Conyers

*“Alcoholics Anonymous: The Big Book, 4th Edition”
by AA Services

*”The Chemical Carousel: What Science Tells us About Beating Addiction”
by Dirk Hanson

“Beyond Addiction”
by Jeffrey Foote, Carrie Wilkens, Nicole Kosanke

“Loved One in Treatment? Now What! An Essential Handbook for Family Members and Friends Navigating the Path of a Loved One’s Addiction, Treatment and Recovery”
by Lisa Frederiksen

“Adolescent Drug & Alcohol Abuse”
by Nikki Babbit

“Addictive Thinking”
by Abraham Twerski

“Recover to Live:  Kick Any Habit, Manage Any Addiction:
Your Self-Treatment Guide to Alcohol, Drugs, Eating Disorders, Gambling, Hoarding, Smoking, Sex, and Porn”
by Christopher Kennedy Lawford

“What Addicts Know: 10 Lessons from Recovery to Benefit Everyone”
by Christopher Kennedy Lawford

“Young, Sober & Free: Experience, Strength, and Hope for Young Adults”
by Shelly Marshall

“Passages Through Recovery:  An Action Plan for Preventing Relapse”
by Terence T. Gorski

“When Your Teen is in Treatment:  A Guide For Parents”
Perkins & Perkins, 1990

“Helping Your Chemically Dependent Teenager Recover. A Guide for Parents and Other Concerned Adults.”
by Peter R. Cohen, 1991

“Parenting for Prevention:  How to Raise a Child to Say No to Alcohol/Drugs.”
by David J. Wilmes, 1988

“One Breath at a Time:  Buddhism and the Twelve Steps”
by Kevin Edward Griffin

“The 12-Step Buddhist:  Enhance Recovery from Any Addiction”
by Darren Littlejohn

“When Bad Things Happen to Good People”
by Harold S. Kushner

“The Spirituality of Imperfection: Storytelling and the Search for Meaning”
by Ernest Kurtz and Katherine Ketcham

“Get Your Loved One Sober. Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading, and Threatening.”
Meyers & Wolfe, 2004

“Reclaim Your Family From Addiction. How Couples and Families Recover Love and Meaning.”
by Craig Nakken, 2000

by Vernon Johnson

“Stage II Recovery:  Life Beyond Addiction”
by Earnie Larsen

*Recommended for those just getting started.

*“Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself”
by Melody Beattie, 1986

*“Codependent’s Guide to the Twelve Steps:  How to Find the Right Program for You and Apply Each of the Twelve Steps to Your Own Issues”
by Melody Beattie

*“The Language of Letting Go”
by Melody Beattie

“Beyond Codependency”
by Melody Beattie, 1986

“Courage to Change: One Day at a Time in Al-Anon II”
by Al-Anon Family Group

“Adult Children of Alcoholics”
by Janet Geringer Woititz

“Don’t Let Your Kids Kill You:  A Guide for Parents of Drug and Alcohol Addicted Children”
by Charles Rubin

“Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children:  Six Steps to Hope and Healing for Struggling Parents”
by Allison Bottke

“Codependence. The Dance of the Wounded Souls”
by Robert Burney

“When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us:  Letting Go of Their Problems, Loving Them Anyway, and Getting on with Our Lives”
by Jane Adams, PhD

“Behind Happy Faces. Taking Charge of Your Mental Health. A Guide for Young Adults.”
by Ross Szabo, Melanie Hall, 2007

“The Bipolar Child:  The Definitive and Reassuring Guide to Childhood’s Most Misunderstood Disorder”
by Demitri Papolos, MD and Janice Papolos

“The Bipolar Teen: What You Can Do to Help Your Child and Your Family”
by David J. Miklowitz and Elizabeth L. George

“An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and Madness”
by Kay Redfield Jamison

“Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder”
by Paul Mason MS and Randi Kreger

“I Am Not Sick I Don’t Need Help: How to Help Someone with Mental Illness Accept Treatment”
by Xavier Amador

“Overcoming Perfectionism”
by Ann W. Smith

“Detour: My Bipolar Road Trip in 4-D”
by Lizzie Simon

“Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls”
by Mary Pipher

“The Anger Workbook for Teens: Activities to Help You Deal With Anger and Frustration”
by Raychelle Cassada Lohmann

“The Lost Boy: A Foster Child’s Search for the Love of a Family”
by Dave Pelzer

“The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children”
by Ross W. Greene

“Why Gender Matters: What Parents and Teachers Need to Know about the Emerging Science of Sex Differences”
by Leonard Sax M.D., Ph.D.

“The Case Against Homework:  How Homework is Hurting Children and What Parents Can Do About It”
by Sara Bennett

“The Battle Over Homework:  Common Ground for Administrators, Teachers and Parents”
by Harris Cooper

“The Homework Myth:  Why Our Kids Get Too Much of a Bad Think”
by Alfie Kohn

“Punished by Rewards:  The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A’s, Praise, and Other Bribes”
by Alfie Kohn

“Colleges That Change Lives:  40 Schools That Will Change the Way You Think About Colleges”
by Loren Pope

“The Last Lecture”
by Randy Pausch with Jeffrey Zaslow

“The Death and Life of the Great American School System:  How Testing and Choice are Undermining Education”
by Diane Ravitch

“High Schools on a Human Scale:  How Small Schools Can Transform American Education”
by Thomas Toch

“The Character Test,” NYTimes Magazine, 9/18/11, p. 38
(alternative title:  “What if the Secret to Success is Failure?”)
>> Click here for link.
by Paul Tough

“Waiting for Superman:  How We Can Save America’s Failing Public Schools”
by Karl Weber

“Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children”
by Allison Bottke

“It’s Not About You Except When It Is”
by Barbara Victoria

“The Parent’s 20 Minute Guide”
by The Center for Motivation and Change

“Raising Happiness:  10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents”
by Christine Carter

“The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage Are Creating a Generation of Disconncted and Unhappy Kids”
By Madeline Levine, Ph.D.

“Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother”
by Amy Chua

“Yes, Your Teen Is Crazy!  Loving Your Kid Without Losing Your Mind.”
by Michael Bradley

“7 Things Your Teenager Won’t Tell You: And How to Talk About Them Anyway”
by Jenifer Marshall Lippincott

“Letting Go With Love and Confidence:  Raising Responsible, Resilient, Self-sufficient Teens in the 21st Century”
by Kenneth Ginsburg

“Building Resilience in Children and Teens:  Giving Kids Roots and Wings”
by Kenneth Ginsburg

“Less Stress, More Success:  A New Approach to Guiding Your Teen Through College Admissions and Beyond”
by Marilee Jones & Kenneth Ginsburg

“Unconditional Parenting:  Moving From Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason”
by Alfie Kohn

“The Blessing of a B Minus:  Using Jewish Teachings to Raise Resilient Teenagers
by Wendy Mogel

“Staying Connected to Your Teenager:  How To Keep Them Talking to You and How To Hear What They’re Really Saying”
by Michael Riera

“Motivated Minds:  Raising Children To Love Learning”
by Deborah Stipek

“Positive Pushing:  How To Raise a Successful and Happy Child”
by Jim Taylor

“The Good School:  How Smart Parents Get Their Kids the Education They Deserve”
by Peg Tyre

“The Hurried Child:  Growing Up Too Fast Too Soon”
by David Elkind

“The Power of Play:  How Spontaneous, Imaginative Activities Lead to Happier, Healthier Children”
by David Elkind

“Under Pressure:  Rescuing Our Children From the Culture of Hyper-Parenting”
by Carl Honoré

“Last Child in the Woods:  Saving Our Children from Nature-Deficit Disorder”
by Richard Louv

“Revolution in the Bleachers:  How Parents Can Take Back Family Life in a World Gone Crazy Over Youth Sports”
by Regan McMahon

“The Reading Promise:  My Father and the Books We Shared”
by Alice Ozma

“Simplicity Parenting:  Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier and More Secure Kids”
by Kim Payne

“The Over-Scheduled Child:  Avoiding the Hyper-Parenting Trap”
by Alvin Rosenfeld

“The How of Happiness:  A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want”
by Sonja Lyubomirsky

“The Book of Joy:  Lasting Happiness in a Changing World”
by Dalai Lama, Desmond Tutu, Douglas Carlton Abrams

“Now You See It:  How the Brain Science of Attention Will Transform the Way We Live, Work and Learn”
by Cathy N. Davidson

“That Used To Be Us:  How America Fell Behind in the World It Invented and How We Can Come Back”
by Thomas Friedman

“A Whole New Mind:  Moving From the Information Age to the Conceptual Age”
by Daniel Pink

“Be Honest:  And Other Advice from Students Across the Country”
by Ninive Calegari

“Harvard, Schmarvard:  Getting Beyond the Ivy League to the College That is Best for You”
by Jay Mathews

“The Overachievers:  The Secret Lives of Driven Kids”
by Alexandra Robbins

“Addiction on Trial: Tragedy in Downeast Maine”
by Steven Kassels